We often hear the line "forgive and forget". It sounds really easy but can you? Have you? Should you? Is it biblical? Are we suppose to? Yes, No, Yes, No, Yes, Yes, Yes, No, No Yes and Yes. There that was really easy to solve! Bet you thought I was going to blog about forever about this!!
The truth is I can give you a solid answer on part of it. Yes you are to forgive. Yes that means EVERYTHING. Is it easy to forgive no, but through the shed blood of Jesus Christ we have been forgiven of ALL of our sins as long as we choose to accept Him as our Lord and Savior. Forgiveness doesn't always come quickly or easily. It takes work but if your not willing to understand and forgive then what does that say about you and your relationship with Jesus? I'm not going to type the entire passage but grab your bible and read Matthew 18 21-35. Go ahead I'll wait for you to finish! ~~~~~~~~ Good your back. We have been forgiven shouldn't we share that same mercy. Have you never hurt another? Is there nothing in your life that you need to ask forgiveness for? Jesus said in Luke 23:34 Father, forgive them for they know not what they do. He was asking forgiveness for those who hurt him. Aren't we to live like Jesus? Are we not suppose to model Him? Who are we to do any less?
What if the person who hurt you isn't a Christian? What if they haven't asked for your forgiveness? What if they don't feel they have hurt you? Luke 23:34 Father, forgive them for they know not what they do. You can't dispute the word of God. At this point I would suggest understanding. I was abused as a girl. We hear that statement and think "Oh bless her" but we don't look past it. I was beat, tormented and terrorized by someone who was suppose to protect me. I have forgiven my abuser. Through understanding and Gods grace I can forgive. I can be in a room with this person, talk to them even have a somewhat relationship with them. They have never asked my forgiveness. They have blocked this from their life. I unfortunately can not. (that's tomorrows blog!) The point is my forgiveness is not based on them. Its based on me and Jesus. Once I gathered an understanding of why then I could work past it. I'm not saying what they did was okay, or right, but I can see why they did what they did. Can you? Can you look past your hurt for understanding? It doesn't always make sense and its not usually how we would have handled things but it is what it is. Can you forgive?
Next we'll work on the forgetting part.